Obesity and divorce - My weight was behind our divorce - My Story

[Linda]

I have recently gone through a divorce and sharing my personal story with you. I am a morbidly obese women in my early forty and just four years back I had a life which probably would have made many feel envy. Although I know that our marriage relationship which once seemed unbreakable has come to an end and somewhere I blame my obesity for that. I probably had the best man in my life and I ruined my life completely by myself.

As a child I was never skinny but kind of OK, after completing my college I met my ex-husband who certainly seemed to be "Mr. Perfect" for me. After a few years of our relationship we both decided to marry. It does not seem too long when he kneeled down and said "Will you marry me?".

Our problems started when we discovered that I cannot become a mother because some of my medical condition. This was certainly a big setback for both of us and
even though I was absolutely ready to adopt a baby by ex-husband was not prepared to do that. Adopting a baby is a big decision and we understood that both partners should mutually agree. Life changed, I started giving attention to babies more than I even did, everyone around me seemed to start becoming pregnant. My "Ex-husband" often joked with me - "Honey we do not have to change diapers, pick kids from school, all our money is just ours and we will not have to suffer the pain when children leave their parents and do not give a damm". I was stressed, talking to a psychiatrist also did not seem to help me much. To find the pleasure in life I started to eat and drink as I wished. It did not take long for a morbidly obese woman like me to become overweight. Our relationship started to deteriorate slowly and it seemed I had no control over my life.

My "Ex" was not very harsh during our divorce and we had a fairly even settlement. Fortunately I have a good job, which pays my bills and I am able to save some in the bank. I have been recently working very hard and trying to lose weight by participating in the weight loss program and yoga. Meanwhile my Ex-Mr Perfect has seemed to find a new love of his life. I am happy for him. Personally really need to straighten things at my end. I had never envisioned things will ever go so far. I should have taken my inability to have children less seriously and instead I carried myself into a nightmare.

I have to start things from all over again, and find myself quite like the ladies of the "Sex and the city". I have also enrolled for higher education and have decided to devote the next phase of my life for career advancement.

[Carol]

Hi Linda, i kind of got carried away by your story. I wish u all the best and hopefully you too will find the love of your life someday. The key is to keep yourself motivated all the the time. Each time you crave for a piece of chocolate think of all the things that you want in the future, i'm sure the craving will die out.

[ibrahem]

this consider mostly true as because overweight people mostly not perfect as physical so they do not perform our responsibilities and young couple did not get self-satisfaction so it cause divorce.

[Juliebean2012]

I didn't realize this was such an old thread. I thought it was from this year. I still want to say something though. First, I hope if Linda is still around that she is doing better now. Was it really because of the obesity that you got divorced?

If I understand your story correctly you were not morbidly obese until after you found out you couldn't have children? It sounds more like you and your husband both were trying to find a way to deal with the fact that you could not have children that perhaps that is what compounded the issue.